Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Dear Gavin,

Hey there, Bug.  First grade sure is treating you nicely.  You're reading like a champ (on a 4th grade level to be exact!) and since I started volunteering in your classroom once a week, I get to see you in your element on a regular basis.  That's been super fun for me.  You did take me by surprise recently when you asked me to stop writing you noted in your lunch because others are making fun of the 'I love you' at the end.  I'm not ready to give that up, and it seems you still enjoy the notes, so we're working on creating a little code that just me and you will know. :)

We're about 6 weeks into Cub Scouts and you seem to be enjoying it still!  I personally love that it's a special Daddy/Gavin activity.  I love seeing you two work on projects together.  We recently had a family picnic and hike, and we're working on fire escape plans together this weekend.  It's been fun to have some new things to work on and talk about.  Plus, you couldn't be any cuter in your uniform!  Now, you're talking about soccer for the spring and even maybe learning to play the piano.  I'm not sure how you got old enough for all of this. 

A friend at school has started talking about you going over there for a sleepover.  I'm not gonna lie - I'm SO not ready for that!  I can't imagine you sleeping away without getting nervous, but who knows...you might do fine.  But, the idea of you being in a home that I've never even been to with a family I don't know just doesn't sit well with me.  Maybe someday...but for now, I hope you don't keep asking, because I hate being the bad guy, but it's just not time. 

The next time I write to you will be after out Disney trip!  I can't wait for this vacation but I'm so anxious about how it's going to go.  I know you're SO excited for the Star Wars stuff.  You are definitely at the age that you will remember this trip and I'm so excited to make amazing memories with you.  You're my favorite little boy...always will be! :)


Monday, September 29, 2014

Dear Riley,

Well, we missed a month, and boy have you had a great few weeks.  Earlier this month, you started preschool and it couldn't have gone any better.  The orientation went so well - you couldn't wait to wear your favorite dress (with the fish on it ) and I even let you have your way and wear you Cinderella glass slippers.  You were very disappointed that 1) Mommy and Daddy were staying with you at the orientation, and 2) you didn't have a lunchbox to take.  I couldn't seem to get you to understand that you wouldn't have lunch at school like your brother, so since school started, I've been packing you a lunch in the morning just like I do for Gavin on Tuesdays and Thursdays so you can have a lunchbox lunch waiting for you when you get back home.  You love it.  :)  That first day of school there were absolutely no tears.  You were so confident and ready, walking in wearing, once again, your favorite fish dress.  I just love coming to pick you up and sneaking a peek in the window to watch you so independently doing everything you're supposed to.  It's so bittersweet for mommy. 

You've also started Jitterbugs after school on Thursdays.  That's been a lot of fun for you!  You're such a performer and love to sing (loudly!) and dance around, so I can't wait to see your first performance with your Jitterbugs friends.  I just know someday you're going to be wowing us on stage.  You started your first independent swim lesson with Miss Jo also.  It's considered Preschool 1, and after just about 6 classes, she's already promoting you to Preschool 2 for the next session.  You're such a brave little fish!

You still have an obsession with flowers.  It's a special treat when Daddy brings you flowers home.  Harper is still your best friend, though we don't see her very often anymore now that school has started and you two are on different preschool schedules.  Like your mommy, you love to eat!  We all joke about how you have two or three breakfasts each morning.  Your imagination is wild these days.  We love the songs you make up, the stories you tell, and the way you cook for us in your kitchen. 

I'm really proud of your behavior lately.  We've seemed to shifted away from the meltdowns and tantrums and you're much more loving and well behaved.  Don't get me wrong....you have your moments.  But, for the most part, we've seen a big change in you!  You're getting into the 'girly' things - like wanting to do our nails together and wanting me to curl your hair.  It's so much fun to watch you grow up, baby girl.


Monday, August 4, 2014

Dear Gavin,

Our little first grader!  Mommy is late at writing to you for July because the end of July was so busy.  We celebrated your sister's third birthday and got everything ready for you to start your first day of first grade!  I can't believe that I was once a first grade teacher, and now I'm the mom of a first grade student.  I can't remember what life was like before you came into our world, but yet it seems like just yesterday you were my tiny newborn son.

We started off July with a splash!  You finally overcame your fear and figured out how to swim.  To say we were proud of you would be an understatement.  Even Miss Donna, who has watched you at the pool the last two summers and did your swim lessons this year, was in tears on the last day because of how brave you were.  And then...swimmer's ear struck.  It's caused a slight regression, but I know we will continue to move forward as you become more confident in the water.  We love you so much and are so excited that you are more comfortable in the water. 

After mastering swimming, we set off for a road trip to Ohio - our first ever Christmas in July.  We were a little bummed you couldn't show off your swimming skills for Mimi and Beepa, but seeing you and Riley swim in the same pool I grew up swimming in was really nostalgic for Mommy and made me so happy.  We had a great week, and even took you to your first amusement park!  King's Island was so much fun!

After returning from Ohio, you had a few sessions of 'Expert Hour' at the library which was really fun - learning about juggling and science....super!  We also had to say goodbye to another one of your friends.  Gunner, who you noted was your best friend from kindergarten, moved to Texas.  I was really sad for you to have a friend move, but you were really mature about the whole situation and I'm hoping we can keep in touch via letter writing. 

Of course, I was supposed to write to you on July 29, which would've been before you started school, but since I'm late, we can officially say you started first grade on August 1 and you are so excited.  It was a much easier transition for Mommy.  I was sad as we went through the end of July, knowing our first baby was starting first grade and our last baby was turning three already, but I didn't find myself up at night, crying, like I did before you started kindergarten.  You were so excited to find out you got the same teacher since Mrs. Ruffner moved up a grade.  It will be nice to have the same familiarity as last year; plus you have some of the same friends in your class, so that helped with our transition.  The school year started on Friday this year (strange) and on Saturday you napped for three hours.  It will take some time for you to adjust to being back in school all day, but I am so excited to see how much you grow this year.  You're really pumped because you and Daddy decided to sign up for Cub Scouts!  Woohoo!

I have seen how you've grown over the summer and it makes me so proud.  I love the way you come up to hug me and say you love me when you can tell I'm having a bad day.  My rough days with your sister really get me down and you can always cheer me up.  I appreciate those hugs more than you will ever know, and I hope they continue coming, no matter how old you get. 

Thanks for making us so proud, Gavin.  We love you!


Sunday, August 3, 2014

Dear Riley,

Well, the past ten days or so have been so busy that Mommy is late writing to you.  But, guess what? You're THREE now!  I don't understand how time goes so fast...  We celebrated your third birthday with just a few of our closest friends - playing in the yard and a cookout.  Pretty awesome night.  You're a lucky little girl and received a brand new bike and lots of cool crafting supplies. 

We spent the beginning of the month on a road trip to Ohio and it was so much fun.  Christmas in July and an early birthday party for you.  It was so special for Mommy to see you and Gavin swimming in the pool I grew up swimming in. {And now we're gearing up for you to start swim lessons on your own...no more Baby and Me lessons for the Pate Family!}  We also took you guys to your first amusement park and had a blast!  You're such a daredevil.  Every ride you saw, no matter how big, you wanted to ride.  We even rode one of the water rides and got soaked....you LOVED it. 

Sweet girl, I've never had such an up and down relationship with anyone in my life like I have with you and it just drains me some days.  One minute, you're so super sweet, adorable, singing, playing dress up, kissing on me, and being an amazing little girl.  The next, you have an awful look on your face, you're hitting me, throwing things, screaming, telling me that I don't love you, and bringing me to tears.  Strong-willed is an understatement with you, Riles. But, for the most part, your tantrums and meltdowns are reserved for me - I guess that's a good thing because most people don't believe me when I talk about how difficult you can be.  I know that the 'threes' are worse than the terrible twos, and I just hope and pray that we get through this year and that four is better.  You will be starting preschool in just a month, and I think that will be a great thing for you.  I'm so excited for you to have a chance to make new friends.  

We will always love you to the moon and back.  Though we are really sad that our baby days are gone for our family, we're thrilled to watch you grow and become such an amazing young lady.  We know you're going to have big dreams and nothing will stand in your way when you shoot for making them come true. 


Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Dear Gavin,

My goodness, dude...what a month June was!  You are now a kindergarten graduate.  How insane is that???  The first year of elementary school went super fast and you made amazing growth.  We're so proud of your accomplishments.  I was thrilled to spend the day with you at your end-of-the-year party.  We had such a great time at the park and splash pad.  My favorite part of being able to attend your school events is seeing you with your friends.  It makes my heart smile. 

On top of celebrating the end of your kindergarten year, you also decided that it was time to overcome your fear of water and have made unbelievable progress.  A few weeks ago, I gave you your goggles while in the bathtub, not expecting much, and all of a sudden you were holding your nose and going right under.  It was crazy!  Within a week, we were at the pool and Miss Donna had convinced you to try going under without holding your nose, and you did it!  Again, Daddy and I were so completely shocked.  Well, we just finished up your three day swimming lesson session yesterday, and you are seriously swimming like a fish!  Coming up with breaths, using your arms, jumping in, even going down the water slide at the pool.... To tell you that we are proud of you would be an understatement, babe.  All I've ever wanted was for you to be able to swim so that you'd be safe around water.  I never expected you to enjoy swimming, but just made it known to you that it was a life skill that you had to learn.  Now all of a sudden, you LOVE swimming and are asking if we can get a pool in our backyard.  It's a complete turn-around and we're so happy about it!  I can't wait for you to swim in Mimi and Beepa's pool next week when we go for our first ever Christmas in July.  It is going to be so much fun. 

Six has been a good age for you.  I'm not sure what it is, but you've just been such a hyper little guy, bouncing off the walls and so excited about life.  I love it!  So many people, including Mrs. Ruffner, have mentioned how sometimes it's hard to see if you're enjoying yourself because you're so serious, so I am really enjoying this side of you.  It is refreshing to see you come out of your shell some.  You've been really helpful around the house and I appreciate that.  And today, we went to the dealership and while bouncing in their bounce house, you kept telling another little boy to be careful around your sister.  It was very heartwarming to hear considering how aggressive Riley can be with you.  Thank you for being her big brother and keeping her safe.  I just love everything about you, Gav. 


Friday, June 27, 2014

Dear Riley,

Whew!  The next time I write to you will be on your third birthday!  Time with you in our lives has never moved faster.  I can't believe how quickly you've grown from a snugly newborn to a strong-willed preschooler.  You test my patience and push buttons I didn't know existed on a daily basis, you're quite mean to Gavin most days, and you have even brought me to tears (should I even admit that???) but I cannot imagine what life would be like without you!

We finally made it to the pool for the first time this year, and just as I suspected, you want very little to do with the baby pool.  {I remember last year how you called it the 'cat pool' because I referred to it as the 'kiddie pool' and you heard 'kitty pool.'  Gosh, I love your innocence.} You are super brave, going down the slide over and over again and proving to us that you're a big girl.  We are so proud of you. 

I always had a feeling that our first ER trip would be for you rather than Gavin because you're quite a bit more rambunctious than he is.  Well, we ended up not going to the hospital, but earlier this month I thought for sure we were headed that way for a broken arm or something.  You were being your usual self, pestering Gavin, and I tried distracting you by having you walk to your room with me.  Well, as I held your hand, you decided to throw a tantrum and pulled back toward Gavin and down to the floor at the same time and I heard this loud pop and then the worst screams of pain from you that I've ever heard.  I was so worried about you.  For hours, you sat on the couch, unwilling to move at all or let us look at your arm.  You just wanted ice on it and if we moved it at all, you cried.  After a long night of tears, you woke up acting completely normal!  After talking to our friend, Amy, we decided it sounded like you had dislocated your elbow, or had what they called Nursemaid's Elbow, and then popped it back into place on your own overnight.  It was quite scary and made my heart break for you.  I hated seeing you in so much pain. 

We're gearing up to drive to Ohio and have our first ever Christmas in July and to celebrate your birthday a little early.  I'm so excited to see our family, but it makes me even more happy to see Mimi and Beepa love on you.  You're such a loved little girl.  I hope you always know that. 


Thursday, June 5, 2014

Dear Gavin,

I waited to write your monthly letter until after we had your six year well check.  I seriously can't believe we just had your SIX YEAR well check!  Everyone tells you how fast the years go by, and they aren't lying.  There's a quote that will always stick with me - the days are long but the years are short.  Somedays, I feel like bedtime can't come soon enough and every minute seems like it's really ten...but my goodness, our years are flying by and sometime I just can't help but feel overwhelmed with how fast you're growing.

You're 42lbs and 3'8" tall right now.  This was a big appointment - it was your first time having to pee in a cup! Haha...  You didn't think it was funny; in fact, it brought you to tears and I had to get stern and make you do it.  I know....it's such a weird thing for a 6 year old to understand.  :)  Your vision test came back ok - 20/20 vision when using both eyes, but in isolation you had a little more trouble.  We'll keep an eye on that as you grow.  And you were super happy that no shot were needed this time around. 

This week, Mommy and Riley were able to attend your first Fun and Field Day.  It was so much fun to spend the morning at school with you and watch you have so much fun with your friends.  Water balloons, bounce houses, relay races, snow cones....of course you had a blast!  We're in the final stretch of kindergarten; just a couple more weeks to go!

We also started a new chore list for you and you're so excited to earn your allowance.  I tried really hard to come up with things that will teach you life skills that are important (like sorting laundry) as well as making it a financial lesson as well.  Today is your first payday and you can't wait until Daddy gets home from work so we can pay you for the chores you've done over the last couple of weeks. 

Everyone's noticing how grown up you are looking in pictures lately....and you sure are growing up to make Mommy and Daddy proud.  We love you, Bug.